"Who we are" is mostly what we do and say. However, it's a serious mistake to take one flaw or behavior and use it as a basis for generalizing about a person. Teachers are not all alike. Lawyers are not all created equal. I like all sorts of people who have habits that I disapprove of, and I wouldn't say those people are "their bad" behaviors. We also all have inherent worth as humans,--or if you're religious, as god's children--regardless of our actions.
This works the other way, too. If you have one talent or trait that you are proud of, that's great, but that's not "you."
All this is obvious enough, but some people apparently don't know it.
This one's for (but not about) you, Leigh.
